When you think of getting up close and personal with your partner, you likely envision being body-to-body between the sheets or on the sheets, i guess. But if you haven’t hit the sexual phase of your relationship yet, or just need another option to increase the intimacy, there are plenty of other ways to get there.
“Sex is one of the most physically intimate acts we can do in a relationship, and couples often believe that the physical act of sex is the quickest way to establish and maintain intimacy,” says Rachel DeAlto, relationship expert. But there are a lot of other ways to be intimate beyond sex.” So maybe you’re in the beginning stages and you haven’t had sex yet but are trying to take things to another level. Or maybe you’ve been together forever and just need to rev up the intimacy level.
Here are six things to try that don’t involve getting naked:
1. Turn off your phone
The most intimate thing you can do with your significant other in this social media age, DeAlto says, is “turn off the electronics and focus on one another.” By staring into each other’s eyes and not your small screen, you’re sending a super bonding message: You are the most important thing to me.
2. Go beyond the superficial “how was your day?”
Even if you think you’ve got enough 411 on your significant other to write his or her biography, challenge yourself to still “ask those deep getting-to-know-you questions. Ae you not tired of that question?
3. Care about things big and small.
It’s easy to show our support and affection at, say, Christmas. But we should be making every mundane day into an excuse to show we’re listening to and care about our significant others. “Remember what your partner said they like in their coffee,” she suggests, “or show up with their favorite flower. On date night, treat them to a spot you think they would uniquely love.”
So, you too can have a very healthy relationship without rubbing against each other on bed.